General
Pointers for Parents When Talking with Children About Sex
Since we have learned that teaching children about sex is a
process that begins with birth and continues until your child reaches adulthood,
here is a summary of basic points for parents to remember every step of the way:
- Be Honest. Answer what you can, simply and easily.
- Get
the Facts. Be as accurate as you can and learn the facts.
- Don’t
be Afraid to Say, “I don’t know.” You can always tell your child
you will discuss an issue later and then think about how you want to answer.
- Use
Correct Language. Don’t be afraid to use anatomically correct language
to describe body parts and sexual functions.
- Don’t
Assume your Child’s Knowledge of Sex. Ask your child to explain
what he or she knows.
- Reassure
and Encourage Curiosity. Learning about our bodies
and ourselves is integral to the development of positive self-esteem.
- Convey
a Positive Attitude. Your feelings about sex are relayed to your child
and will influence the attitude that he or she develops.
- Teach
Decision Making. Learning about sex means learning about life
choices – choices that children will face as they grow up.
- Keep
the Lines of Communication Open. Children learn about sex throughout
the growth process. At each turn, they need to know they can ask, discuss and
share with you about these important issues and feelings.
- Remember
that Children Learn by what they See and Hear. Feelings,
attitudes and values around sexuality are often conveyed non-verbally. Be aware
of what you do as well as what you say.
- Don’t
be Afraid to Talk about Sex. Remember that education around
sexuality is necessary for children’s growth and development. Openness and ease
with the subject of sex helps a child mature into a healthy and happy adult.